Dear Comfort zone
“I want to be successful, helping others, and receiving compliments.”
👉 So there was I, all shaky and scared. Insomnia for 2 Days. Only 2 Days until the event. “What am I going to say? Is this keynote even good? Why am I even invited? I’m not that special.”
Looking at my keynote, I was all happy and miserable at the same time. I will speak in front of 200 people about being a Design Leader and Founder and Design Director. “What am I going to say?”
What if’s turned into monsters. I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t eat.
“I’ll read this article; this will make me feel better.” At least I thought.
“How to be confident, 101”.
After being so nervous, I stopped reading and stopped everything at one point. I felt my presentation is ready. It’s the topic I want to share. In short, punto e basta. So how can one survive while managing their imposter?
👇 Ugly sketches incoming
It takes time to change your mindset.
What can I do when I have to talk in front of people?
Accept and Share your emotions
Accept the fact that you are a human and you are excited. Don’t keep it for yourself. Talk to your friends about how you feel. We think no one understands but let me tell you: People do understand because everyone experienced something uncomfortable. You get the love and support you need. 1.1 Ask early. Don’t wait for weeks. Emotional support is necessary.
Let your gut guide you
If you have to present something or organizing and talk in front of people. Let your gut guide you once a while. Always think what you can share and how is it going to impact the lives of all the different people. Do some research and talk to the people before the event, so you made a few friends before going on stage. The gut knows when you see peoples reaction while you are talking. Use this feeling to pivot if necessary.
Practice, Practice, Practice
You are armed with the knowledge you need and you know what to say. Practice in front of family, friends, colleagues your cat or dog. It’s essential to get in the flow.
“ I can.”
You are awesome. There is a reason you are invited to speak, present or share your work. Don’t question your authority. Be humble and strong. Think about people and try to help them with your speech.
Focus on others
Me myself and I. Nowadays everyone suggests putting yourself first. It doesn’t always work like that. People feel your energy. You can’t hide it. If you think you are better and what not. Don’t go on stage. Focus on helping others improve, and you will be lifted.
Ask for Feedback
Usually, people will tell you how it was. I always ask what value did it bring to you today. What changed. How do you feel?
Try to connect with people before you talk and after. It makes a huge difference in what is happening inside of you. We appear different on stage than in real life. I usually greet people and small talk. It really helps.
Thanks for reading 💙
Do you have experienced being out of your comfort zone?
Please, share down in the comments.
ps: Sorry for the ugly sketches my Graphic Tablet just broke…R.I.P
